{"id":28767,"date":"2024-01-03T16:55:15","date_gmt":"2024-01-03T22:55:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fellowshipadev.wpengine.com\/?p=28767"},"modified":"2024-07-25T16:34:27","modified_gmt":"2024-07-25T21:34:27","slug":"just-say-hi-lorena-hoffmans-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fellowshipar.com\/just-say-hi-lorena-hoffmans-story\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Just Say Hi&#8221; | Lorena Hoffman","gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"text"}]},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.22.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.24.3&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cWe have visions of how things should go, and they don\u2019t always work out that way. But then, God shows up and He shows up big and He says, \u2018Oh, no, this is how it\u2019s going to be.\u2019 And it\u2019s way better than what you ever envisioned.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There were a few standout moments in Lorena Hoffman\u2019s life that she never would have envisioned for herself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Paralysis in her leg for nearly a year.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Resigning from her dream job.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A global pandemic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Isolation.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But God.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He redeemed each and every one of these situations, for Lorena\u2019s good and for His glory.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lorena was born in Lewisville, Texas. She is one of six siblings, and falls in the middle of the lineup. \u201cI remember spending a lot of my childhood outdoors \u2014\u00a0climbing trees, riding bikes, playing with my neighborhood friends, and at the public pool jumping off the high dive,\u201d Lorena recalled.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The memories she cherished most were from when she and her family would travel to her grandparents\u2019 ranch in central Mexico during the summer. \u201cThey grow lots of vegetation and chili peppers there, and raise all kinds of farm animals. \u2026We would help milk the cows in the morning for fresh milk, gather all the chicken eggs, collect water from the well to distribute to all the animals, and ride horses through the corn fields to collect corn to sell and eat that day. My mom and aunts would be in the kitchen all afternoon making homemade tortillas and something hearty to eat. It was always a feast when we were there. After dinner, my siblings, cousins, and I would climb a ladder up to the roof \u2014\u00a0which, ranch houses were built flat there \u2014 and we would all lay down and stare at the stars until it was time for bed. We loved getting to do that, because it felt like the stars were so close that you could reach up and touch them. Life there is simple and humbling, and it\u2019s my fondest memories growing up.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There was one childhood memory, though, that would change her life forever. Lorena had been having a really rough day and felt compelled to go to her neighbors;\u00a0looking back, she says she believes that was the Lord leading her there. They were Christians, and the wife prayed over Lorena. \u201cAnd that was the first day\u2026 where I was introduced to knowing who Jesus is and knowing who God is and knowing just the power of prayer and the power of peace.\u201d They had a daughter Lorena\u2019s age, and the two became best friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Throughout middle and high school, she always kept up with that family, but after graduation, she lost touch with them for a while. Years later, Lorena would go on to find the wife on Facebook and reconnect. \u201cWhen I think of her, I think of her as just a strong Christian woman who was doing God\u2019s work in that moment,\u201d she said fondly. \u201cYou want to be that for someone else, \u2018cause it can change everything.\u201d They still check in with one another every now and again.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A seed of faith had been planted, which produced a desire in Lorena to go to church. There was a bus that would take the youth in the neighborhood to church, and so she began eagerly attending. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A few years later, she accepted Christ into her heart and became a Christian. \u201c&#8230;it changed my life for the better. I honestly don\u2019t know where my life would have been\u2026 it just changed the trajectory of where my life could have gone.\u201d As Lorena puts it, the Lord has been so faithful to her, and is \u201cthe quiet to my noise.\u201d <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After high school, Lorena attended community college for about two years, then decided to move out to California, where one of her sisters lived. There, she worked at various jobs over the course of a few years, such as a talent agency, until she decided to go back to school. Of her time working in California, she noted, \u201cI loved working with people, and I loved being able to connect with people in certain ways. That was always meaningful for me, and I love that.\u201d<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On her way driving home one night, a \u201crandom\u201d commercial for Vanguard University\u2019s psychology program played on the Christian radio station The Fish. After looking up more about the program, she decided to apply. \u201cI was accepted, and I couldn\u2019t believe it, because it had been years since I had been in school.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reflecting on her time at Vanguard, she says, \u201cit was an amazing two and a half years\u2026 But also the professors, their encouragement. And not only that, but just the inclusion of faith-based counseling and theology and just aligning all of that with God\u2019s Word. \u2026it was just exactly where I needed to be and what I needed to be doing.\u201d She graduated Summa Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology with an emphasis in Human Development. \u201cIt was the first time in my life where I felt and believed God made that path for me to be there, to give me the tools and mindset to succeed in that capacity.\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lorena went on to study at Pepperdine Graduate School of Education and Psychology. She graduated with a Masters in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. She was the first \u2014\u00a0but not the last! \u2014\u00a0member of her family to graduate college and with a master\u2019s degree. She was driven to study psychology by the desire to know the \u201cwhy\u2019s\u201d behind intricate and complex family dynamics. \u201cI just had this strong feeling of needing to know more and wanting to learn more,\u201d she said. She got hired as a women\u2019s behavioral counselor, a fulfilling role in which she thrived.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the midst of her studies and career, Lorena dated, got engaged to, and married her husband Eric, with whom she had been friends for years. \u201cEric is my better half, my rock, and safe haven. He just gets me like no other person and supports all my ideas and dreams.\u201d The newlyweds knew they wanted to start a family, and soon, Lorena gave birth to their daughter, Lilliana.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But then, the unimaginable happened. After the birth, Lorena experienced neuropathy in her right leg. She visited the doctor constantly over the course of four months, getting multiple tests and doing physical therapy. She had no feeling in her leg and had to maneuver using a brace and a walker. Since she couldn\u2019t drive, she ultimately had to give up the job she loved. The combination of being a new mom, losing feeling in her leg, and letting go of a career she had worked so diligently to achieve, was an awful lot to bear.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A grueling ten and a half months later, she finally regained feeling in her leg. \u201cIt just needed time to regenerate, the nerves needed time to regenerate,\u201d she explained. Looking back on that period, Lorena said she sees that God\u2019s hand was in it all. \u201cAs hard as it was, I think it was a way of me, I guess maybe slowing down literally\u2026 And also not only that, but getting to savor the moments, that time with Lilliana. Growing up in a Mexican family, our culture values hard work, so having a job and working was top priority.\u201d Lorena explains that while becoming a stay-at-home mom initially was not ideal for her, \u201cit turned out to be the best thing to happen to me.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it rains, it pours, though, because six months after she regained feeling in her leg \u2014\u00a0the pandemic hit. \u201cEric continued to work during that time, despite the lockdown. So it was just me and Lilliana all day isolated. And I say that word because that\u2019s what it was. It was lonely and it was isolating.\u201d None of their close friends lived nearby, nor did any family.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Providentially, the Hoffmans had a conversation with some dear friends \u2014\u00a0who actually, years earlier, introduced Eric and Lorena to one another \u2014\u00a0who had decided to move to Little Rock. That sparked a desire to move closer to family. In May of 2021, the Hoffman three moved to Texas to spend quality time with family, but with their sights ultimately set on Little Rock. Lorena said she enjoyed the small-town feel of Little Rock, and it was still reasonably close to all their Texas relatives. \u201cI\u2019ve always loved it. I\u2019ve always loved the people. I love the beauty of Arkansas.\u201d During their time in Texas, she prayed specific and intentional prayers for their upcoming move to Arkansas. Two of the most important were to find a Bible-based church and to find community.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In July of 2022, the Hoffmans finally arrived in Little Rock.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They \u201chappened\u201d to drive by Fellowship Bible Church one day, and Lorena knew they needed to check it out. The very first smiling face they saw that Sunday morning was that of Fellowship\u2019s I.T. Director Andy Baker. He warmly greeted them and introduced them to Teaching Pastor Mark Henry, who showed them around for a bit, and then they went into service.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lorena saw in the bulletin announcements for things like Discipleship Groups, as well as Preschool Storytime, which is a gathering for mothers and their Pre-K kiddos. \u201cSo everything that I had been praying for a year prior, was just starting to align,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Hoffmans wasted no time getting plugged in, and joined a Discipleship Group (D-Group) in the fall of 2022. Lorena emphasized how much that has impacted her and Eric, not only by getting them connected to community, but also by how it has helped them grow spiritually. \u201cWe have made lifelong friends in our group and have expanded our knowledge of the Bible because of our D-Group. I\u2019m so thankful to Fellowship and our D-Group leaders for that.\u201d<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Preschool Storytime, too, was a game changer. \u201cNot only did it make me happy for the opportunity to have a place to take Lilliana to engage with other kids, but every week it made Lilliana just light up,\u201d she said. Lilliana, who recently turned five, has a great deal of spunk and pep, according to her mother. \u201cShe tells me that when she grows up, she wants to be a worship pastor and a babysitter.\u201d Contrasting against those Covid years, it has been a joy for her to watch Lilliana flourish. She said she can\u2019t over emphasize \u201chow much Fellowship Kids means to our family and the team that leads that each week of Trish White, Juliana Reynolds, Ross Rice, Jeff Wood, Emily Manus, and Anna Talley. They bring so much joy to the kids with the events and activities they plan each week with love and intentionality.\u201d Lorena also noted that there\u2019s nothing more satisfying than listening to her daughter recite Biblical truth that she learns at church.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cSo after maybe two or three weeks of coming to storytime every week, I felt like God was tugging on my heart to find moms that were in the same season as me that probably went through the same thing I did.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know Lorena, you know she\u2019s never met a stranger, but even she had to get over the hurdle of nervousness to approach new people. \u201cI prayed for, to be very intentional, to be courageous, because I felt there\u2019s times where I\u2019m really shy and I can\u2019t talk, I\u2019m like, \u2018am I going to say the wrong thing, or is it just going to come out wrong?\u2019 \u2026And so I started talking to moms like, \u2018Where are you from?\u2019 Just wanting to know their story.\u201d Those little moments of courage led to friendships that have blossomed in the past year. \u201cI remember not too long ago, I think it was just like a couple of months ago, one of them telling me \u2014\u00a0who\u2019s now one of my really good friends \u2014 \u2018thank you for saying hi to me last year. Because I didn\u2019t really have any friends.\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From there, it snowballed in the best possible way. As her relationships deepened and grew with more and more of the Preschool moms, Lorena and her friends knew they wanted to continue this once the designated storytime meetings ended for the semester. So, they created a group that met regularly throughout the summer to do fun activities with their kiddos. They also initiated monthly mom\u2019s-night-out gatherings.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This fellowship, Lorena says, is vital. \u201cIt gives a new and even a seasoned mom looking for this type of community for moms a sense of support, belonging, peace, and an empathy, knowing that they\u2019re not alone and they don\u2019t have to be alone, and that\u2019s important.\u201d Their roster now is about two dozen moms, and Lorena says the more, the merrier. \u201cI still want it to continue to grow, because I know there\u2019s moms out there who need that. \u2026and it\u2019s true. It does take a village. And everyone who\u2019s in the group, they count on each other for help. And that\u2019s what we\u2019re here for, because we understand, we know.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lorena also empathizes with how difficult \u2014\u00a0but also how worth it \u2014 it can be to vocalize when you\u2019re struggling. \u201cAnd it\u2019s really hard for people to ask for help. It really, really is. But I think that once you find other moms\u2026 just say hi. And from there, allow things to just organically flourish, let the Lord do His work. \u2026because you just never know that that person you\u2019re saying hi to or introducing yourself to may need that, may need you. And you never know where that\u2019s going to lead.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWe have visions of how things should go, and they don\u2019t always work out that way. 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